“Hello and Welcome to Episode 2 of ‘Tuesday Choose Day’, my new inspirational weekly post.
My aim here is to inspire you to feel more positive and more confident within yourself to create the change you want to happen in your life.”
Today’s Inspiration To Brighten Your Day…
We all lead such busy lives of responsibility don’t we? It’s almost as if we don’t even have time to wobble. Maybe you find yourself so caught up in every day ‘human doing’ that you end up stressed out, uptight and wondering what it’s all about?! Things can spiral out of control as stress mounts during a typical day and I wonder do you find yourself wound tighter and tighter in your chest or your stomach?
In these times, you will running on adrenaline on what’s known as fight-flight, the instinctive response to stress which cavemen experienced in order to stand and fight a sabre toothed tiger or get the hell out of there. Thankfully, there are no sabre toothed tigers anymore although our body still reacts with the same innate response and the truth is most people in modern society are running at some degree of fight-flight just to cope with the pace of living and the demands in today’s world.
Here’s how you can choose to find a window of peace in your day!
It may seem like you are too busy and it’s just not possible. You might even balk or laugh at the suggestion! Remember that you are a human ‘being’ first so allow yourself to just be; to find at least one window in your day when you can pay attention to your breath, when you get outside and reconnect with nature around you. Schedule the time as it were a vitally important meeting or appointment that you simply can’t miss! I guarantee you it will help to regain a sense of perspective on your day. Your intuition and creativity and even your memory are stifled by stress – so do yourself a favour and schedule in some quiet time in your day to re-connect and tune in to the knowing part of you, that otherwise just doesn’t get a look in.
Here are a few suggestions of how to create a window of peace time in your day…
- If you live in the city, find a park or a river to walk by.
- If you’re mum at home with young children even hanging out the washing can be a welcome moment of escape.
- Even if you can’t get out for some reason, play your favourite soothing music with headphones and escape for a short time.
- If you’re lucky enough to live near the forest or the coast as I do, take yourself there and breathe fresh air and enjoy the space around you.
- Lose yourself in a game with your children, or play with your pet
- Go for a swim in a pool, better still if you can, swim outdoors in the sea or in a lake
- Do something that engages your mind in a completely different way like soduko or a crossword puzzle or some kind of art
- Watch some comedy sketches
Find every opportunity to step off the hamster wheel of life and slow the pace. Your body and your mind will thank you with better health, sharper thinking and calmer nerves.
Next time I’ll be sharing with you how to focus on breathing the right way to challenge the stress response and get yourself back in balance.
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From the Wobbles and Worries Mailbox…
“I’ve developed a really bad habit that I’d like to break. I surf retail online whilst my husband watches evening TV which doesn’t interest me. It’s become my wind down to have a glass of wine and just surf online. Truth is I think it’s because I resent his vegging mindlessly when we have such little time together and online shopping distracts me from feeling that way. I always plan to browse but then end up buying stuff I don’t really need just because I can’t resist! I’ve not realised how much I’ve been spending and it has started to cause problems between my husband and me as our finances are joint. He says it’s like I have a gambling addiction and I need help. Things have become very tense because of these issues. How can I break this habit and calm things with my husband?
A summary of my advice…
It seems you are hooked on emotional spending. It is giving a comfort to you that you seem to be otherwise missing in your relationship. My guess is that you are feeling disconnected from your husband and the hole that this leaves is being filled by the ‘feel good’ of retail therapy. You need to strengthen the closeness in your relationship.
Talk to your husband and let him know you are perhaps feeling lonely and disconnected from him when he does his own thing watching evening TV and that you want to be closer to him. Try to reach a compromise so that most times you spend time together after work in the evenings, watching TV or a film that you are both interested in, cooking together, popping out for a drink or anything else you can of that you’d enjoy doing together.
It is healthy in any relationship to have time apart and in those times when your husband wants to watch his own stuff on TV, make sure you have a hobby or an interest that will engage you.
It might be that your personality is such that you are more outgoing and sociable than your husband and if this is the case, arrange for a night out regularly with your girlfriends so that your emotional needs are met in the most rounded and healthy way.
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Lisa Skeffington, Anxiety Expert – Anxiety Help Bournemouth